Wishful Thinking: And how to combat it
I caught myself doing this multiple times over the past few weeks and it really brings us and our vibrations down.
Over the past 4-5 years, I’ve done a lot of self-improvement, I was in a dark bad place. I drank too much, I ate too much, I treated all those around me bad, I didn’t even treat my kids the way I was supposed or wanted to. I had to make some serious changes in my life. So I started a journey of making myself a better person, I wanted to stop waking up only because I didn’t die in the night. I wanted to be excited about life, I wanted to love deeper, I wanted reason and purpose.
One of the major things I had to overcome was “wishful thinking” it sounds all cool, but in reality, it’s very harsh. There’s nothing wrong with wishing on a star, dreaming about what the future might hold. Just make sure you don’t lose yourself in wishes it can be really exhausting and debilitating. What do I mean by that?
Well, the problems come when we start wishing things like;
- I wish I had said blah blah blah instead of blah…
- I wish I had stayed with this person rather than moving to that person.
- I wish I had taken that job instead of this job.
- I wish my spouse would just act like this instead of that.
- I wish I could learn more
- I wish I was smarter
These are all very bad for your mindset. You become what you think you are so if you think you’re not smart enough, well then you won’t be. If you think you made a bad decision, well then you did. Always remember that, what happened in the past happened, you made the perfect decision with the information given to you at the time. Now it’s time to move past it and grow from it. You couldn’t have made a better decision at that particular moment.